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this essay titillated my brain.

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just as intended 😌

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Gonna name my cover band “Erotophobic Loser Behavior”

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i’ll stream y’all on spotify 🫡

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First album will be called “Saving my Hypothetical Child from Tulips”

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That ending is so excellent. “That conservatism knows how to say words like leftist and advocacy and abolitionist and progressive. But saying a word is just saying a word. It doesn’t mean you understand it. It definitely doesn’t mean you believe it.”!!! You continue to be so smart and thoughtful and also hilarious!

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bayley!!!! you’re too kind

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"healthy, developmentally appropriate sex portrayed in fiction can also be arousing or titillating to read" and arguably SHOULD be!

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AGREED

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erotophobic loser behavior !!!!!

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title of my sex tape

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(off topic from this beautiful, wonderful essay) you mention that young girls are taught to see desire as monstrous and male - do you think this is reflected in monster theory / does it affect how you interpret monster romance?

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love this sooooo much, posted a reply to this in a restack!

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thank you!!! this is beautifully written. i thought i was going crazy

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love!!! can’t wait to read more of your work

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Easily the best essay I’ve read on this platform.

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thank you sm!!!

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Thank you for writing this.

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This is such a wonderful, well thought out discourse on open door scenes in YA! Thank you for sharing.

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So insightful as usual! Sent to many friends.

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thank you so much!

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this is such an amazing essay- whole different perspective that i admired. thank you for sharing!

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thank you for reading!

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thank you for this. Definitely changed my perspective

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thank you for reading!

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Love this so much! As someone who writes YA (often YA romance, and often queer romance), and is also a mental health therapist that works with teenagers, this discourse drives me absolutely up the metaphorical wall. It feels like such a relief to read it so brilliantly deconstructed. Thank you for writing and sharing!

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❤️❤️❤️

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yes, yes, yes, YES! YES.

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